Barb's Blog
There is so much advice for women, and for women and divorce in regards to financial support and guidance. Many excellent books have been written, and there are many great financial planners to choose from.
I have been unsure of what to share about this topic, because some divorced women are financially secure and comfortable, while many others are stuggling and scared. Some of us have strong money management skills, and others have found ourselves with no money left to manage. Our emotions range from feeling irritated to being terrified.
May these four points be helpful to every one of you.
1. Surround yourself with strong professional help. Find a financial planner, a banker, and an insurance agent who you trust and are comfortable working with. And, if after some time you feel any of these professionals is not a good fit for you, find someone else. Many of us will stay in a bad relationship too long...whether it be personal or professional.
2. Start where you are. If you can only save $5 a month, that is where you start. If you want to contribute to a cause that is dear to your heart, and you can only contribute $3, that is what you do. As you rebuild your life, your finances will grow, and you will be able to do more for yourself and for others.
3. Attitude is so important. Don't you get tired of people saying this! Yes, you will be able to rebuild your life. Please believe this, and value yourself and your fututre. Please be grateful for what you do have. And please remember it's not cold, hard, cash...it's soft and warm!
4. Be willing to move forward. When a friend found herself stuck and feeling angry about being financially damaged by her divorce, she decided to consider her financial loss the ransom she paid for having saved her life, and to treaure the new life she was beginning.
Starting where you are, and moving forward with a great attitude and professional support, will empower you to build the strong, solid financial foundation for your life that we each deserve.
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