Barb's Blog

For women and divorce the road to recovery can seem terribly daunting. We want divorce help to move through this often painful process, but sometimes it feels as if the journey will never end.  There is much divorce support and divorce advice available, but it can often overwhelm us.  So we decide to take one step at a time but are unsure what those steps should be.

Here are four simple steps, that if repeated, can get you wherever you want to go.

Step 1: Start.  Do one thing.  It may be to call your attorney, start a budget, go for a walk or eat a bowl of ice cream.  Sometimes the step you take may be going backwards. Try not to fret too much when that happens, because it happens to us all.

Step 2: Celebrate Step 1.  Balloons don't need to come down from the ceiling, but acknowledge your courage by getting yourself fresh flowers, soaking in the tub, or simply smiling back at yourself in the mirror and proclaiming, "I took a step.  Good job!"

Step 3: Stop when you need. Listen to your body.  It is very wise and will let you know if you need to rest, breath, cry, or simply be still for a few moments.

Step 4: Start again.

You may be shaking your head and thinking, "How these few steps can make any difference at all, when this process feels like a marathon?" 

Respect the Distance is a phrase that is familiar to those who do run marathons, and it's valuable advice - not just for runners. When you respect the distance in your personal "marathon," you will be kinder to yourself. And when that happens, you will be better able to focus and access your skills and your wisdom.

Continue to put one foot in front of the other.  You are moving towards more than a finish line.  You are moving towards your new future....one step at a time.