Barb's Blog

When we are getting a divorce we do what we can to protect our broken hearts.  And when we, as women of divorce, reach out for divorce support, we can choose to heal our hearts as well.

Some women feel as if they have been freed from a cage, and their heart feels light and revived.  Others feel their hearts have been so damaged and abused, they can barely breathe.

In whatever condition we find ourselves, Dee Bailey, MA, CPCC (www.deebailey.com) reminds us to care for and strengthen our hearts by saying "Yes" to what fills us up and saying "No" when we need, especially to things that drain our energy.

She reminds us to accept the support of others and to take a moment, if we are able, to help someone else who is in need of support themselves.

She encourages us to expect to heal and to watch for signs of hope.     

A sign might be that we no longer find our eyes filling with tears when we are in the frozen food section of the grocery store, or that we are able to notice a beautiful sunrise, or that we have stopped eating entire cartons of ice cream!

Dee understands the importance of honoring who we've been, who we are now, and who we are becoming.   And what a gift, to be able to choose who we are becoming and develop our identity and a clearer sense of ourselves.  When we look, not only at what is lost and what is left, but we also look at what is possible, the world opens up to us.

As our heart heals, it can once again lead us, we can trust it, and we can create a future for ourselves and our family that is filled with love and blessing and our own unique happily ever after.