Barb's Blog

When the divorce feels overwhelming, you may become resentful that you are always expected to be strong, especially when the divorce process causes you to become exhausted and feel powerless. But women in divorce don't always have to be charging forward.  Many of us were taught that being hard on ourselves is what makes us strong. But it is when we cherish ourselves that we gain strength. And sometimes the best way to show your strength is to stop, have piece of chocolate, go for a walk, or curl up on the sofa. 

And we each possess unique personal strengths.  Those things we are naturally good at, that energize us and put a sparkle in our eye. But in the commotion of life, it is very possible to lose touch with these wonderful strengths, especialy if you have been in a toxic and/or abusive situation. And then sometimes we begin to doubt. 

Do I have any strengths?

Did I ever have any strengths?

What are my strengths anyway?

Where did they disappear to?

Will I ever be able to find them?

How will I recognize them as mine?

The good news is that there are many ways to re-discover these strengths, or maybe discover them for the first time.  You can be very thorough and take a Meyers-Briggs test. Or you may prefer to attend a work-related seminar, or just answer a quiz from the back of a magazine!  You can talk to a therapist or a psychic or a friend.  You can look to the stars and have your astrological chart done, or you can listen to motivational CDs and read motivational books. 

And best of all, you can simply sit quietly, ask questions of yourself, and then trust what you hear.  

As you cherish yourself and reclaim your strengths, you will sense a new power and hope and the possiblities of a beautiful, fulfilling future.